Choosing a School

As you evaluate your child's needs, begin making a list of what you want in a school. Consider your own preferences, as well as your child's personality, gifts, and talents. "Be specific about ambiance, class size, teaching style, curriculum, the role of art and music, homework, where parents fit in the running of the school, and so on," says Koetzsch. But, he warns, remember, you are not constructing an absolute educational ideal, just one that is appropriate for your child.

Next, make a list of all the schools in your area that are potential candidates. Call and ask them to send information about their school. Once the information has arrived, look at each school's program, mission, services, faculty, and administration and ask yourself the following questions:

• What makes the school unique?
• What is its teaching philosophy?
• Is there a vision for the future?
• Is there anything the school does particularly well?
• What about the curriculum?
• Will it cater to your child's talents and interests?

While cost and commuting distance are factors, both Koetzsch and Dr. Weinig agree, these are hurdles that can be overcome. "Parents should not be deterred by the cost of school fees," says Dr. Weinig. "Some of the most expensive schools also have the largest amounts of financial aid available." And as far as the commute goes, there may just be someone in your community who would welcome ride sharing.

How to Evaluate Schools

After reviewing the school brochures and materials, arrange to visit those schools that appeal to you. Still, Koetzsch advises, be open minded. Consider visiting a school even if it's not one of your top selections. "There is tremendous variety even among schools that share a common educational philosophy and practice," he says. "The school you expected to love may disappoint you, and you may find a gem where you didn't expect one."

While visiting, sit in on the classes and observe the teachers and students. And don't forget your notebook, either. According to Koetzsch, it's a good idea to keep a written record of every visit. "Note the obvious facts—school size, class size, ambiance of the school as a whole and of individual classrooms, absence or presence of a dress code, and general demeanor of the students and teachers." Also, be sure to record your reaction. Did you feel comfortable and relaxed, or uptight and anxious?